But first ………..some scary stuff.
My son was badly bullied at the weekend and I am afraid I can think of nothing much else at the moment. Not even the littlest giggle……. It happened in a situation that he will be returning to in a couple of weeks and I simply do not know what to do about it.The four culprits were considerably older and bigger than him and only stopped when an adult spotted what was happening and intervened.
My options seem endless but the right solution alludes me. At the time they denied it and I mistakenly thought I had said enough to prevent it happening again but in retrospect I doubt it.
I suppose it is an age old problem and this is my first experience of it but what a baptism of fire.The feeling that at eight he was in real physical danger has knocked me sideways. He is still so vulnerable and small and the feeling that I couldn’t protect him is quite frankly overwhelming me.
But what to damn well do??????
I have a friend of a friend who would wait for the bullies of her children when they were walking home from school and making sure they were alone, would pounce. She would lean in menacingly before threatening terrible physical violence if one more finger was laid upon her child. Her theory was/is that bullies only understand one language and she was prepared to talk it to keep her child safe…… it worked every single time and wouldn’t it feel fabulous to carry out? How dare the little sh.ts hurt and frighten my child.
I could contact the parents although I am unsure of exactly who the children were or I could wait until we return to the situation and see if it happens again…….Happens again???? I feel like it CAN’T happen again. In my horror at what he had gone through and seeking to mitigate his distress I assured him that it WOULDN’T happen again and he believes me……god love him. If those kids do it again I will have let him down……..
I am filled with scenario after scenario as I try to figure out the best way to protect him. Obviously physical violence is my fave but in the real world just not my style……. I could never let him out of my sight but that’s not the right answer either. I want him to be outgoing and participate in life not hideaway from it just in case.
We read about the devastation that bullying brings to families and individual lives all the time. A child’s right to feeling safe, being safe should be sacrosanct.The reality of course is that bullies are part of human nature and most people have a tale or three to tell. Handled right this could empower him as he didn’t let them see him cry and actually gave one a shove……….but he’s so young it also could be emotionally devastating for him if it carries on………..Where’s the f.cking Equalizer when you need him…..
Potato Salad Recipe
This is a recipe for Potato Salad with Chives and Red Onion that I made for this past fateful weekend and will continue to for every summer trip or outside Soiree. In my opinion it is what Tupperware was made for. It is my go to Potato Salad recipe throughout the whole of Summer. It is at it’s best served straight out of the fridge or cool box and goes with about everything and anything that you can imagine on a summer plate. God it is good as well as super simple to put together. I often just keep a tub of it permanently in the fridge for simple midweek meals, stick a Sausage Roll or slice of Quiche with it and suddenly you’re eating like a King. Pass me the Swan….
It is simply a matter of boiling the potatoes and mixing in the dressing, onions and chives………simplesssss
In fact such ease belies it’s cold, bold deliciousness. Summer for me on a fork.
This is my go to Potato salad recipe. It is divine! Served cold it goes with about everything that you can think of.
- 1 kg new potatoes
- 5 tbsps mayonnaise
- 50 grams red onion
- 12 grams chives
- 1 tbsp yoghurt/sour cream
Boil the potatoes in salted water for about ten mins until tender.
Meanwhile blitz the red onion in a small food processor.
Drain the potatoes and allow to cool to room temp . Scatter in the red onion and snip the chives in with scissors. Add the mayo and yoghurt and then gently mix well together. Chill the ass off it.
Apply to Protective Face
Here is another fabulous Summer Salad – Moroccan Roast Vegetable Salad
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